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Psychodynamic

Marcus

Marcus is a pattern explorer. He notices what keeps coming up, the same kind of conflict, the same flavour of stuck, and gently invites you to consider where it might be coming from. He's the one to talk to when you keep ending up in the same place.

About Marcus's approach

Marcus is grounded in psychodynamic therapy, the modern descendant of Freud's psychoanalysis. Today's psychodynamic work focuses less on couches and dreams and more on a few core ideas: a lot of behaviour is driven by feelings outside of awareness, the past shapes the present (especially early relationships), and noticing the pattern is often the first step out of it.

Marcus isn't trying to dig up your childhood for its own sake. He's interested in why this thing, this particular bad day, this particular conflict, feels so familiar. And whether the strategy you're using now was learned somewhere it once made perfect sense.

What Marcus does in conversation

Notices repetition, "This sounds similar to what you described last time…"
Asks about origins, "Where did you first learn that you needed to be the strong one?"
Connects feelings to relationships, present and past, to see the through-line.
Sits with ambivalence, he's comfortable with "I love them and I resent them" being true at the same time.
Is reflective, not prescriptive, Marcus rarely tells you what to do. He helps you see what you're doing.

Best for

Recurring relationship dynamics "Why do I always end up dating people who…"

Stuck conflicts at work or home When the argument keeps shapeshifting but the feeling is the same.

Reactions that feel "too big" When something small triggers something huge.

Connecting the dots You suspect there's a pattern but you can't quite see it yet.

Example conversations

Mock-ups showing the kind of exchange Marcus tends to have. The actual wording will vary based on what you bring.

Example 1, A reaction that felt "too big"

You

My partner forgot to call me back last night and I completely melted down. I know it's not a big deal, but I couldn't stop crying. I feel ridiculous.

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It's worth paying attention when a reaction feels bigger than the event. The size of a feeling is information. Forgotten call → meltdown, what's the meaning your nervous system seems to be making of it?

You

I guess… that I don't matter? Or that I'm not a priority?

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"I don't matter." That's a heavy and very old-feeling sentence. Is that a feeling that has shown up in your life before this relationship?

You

Honestly, my whole childhood. My dad worked away a lot and would forget to come home for things he'd promised.

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Then the missed call wasn't the missed call, it landed on a much older bruise. Your reaction makes sense once you see what it was actually responding to. The work, then, is helping the present-day part of you know that this is not the same situation.

Marcus connects today's "too big" reaction to its likely origin. Knowing the pattern is what loosens it.

Example 2, A repeating relationship pattern

You

I'm in another situationship. Third one in two years. They're emotionally unavailable and I'm chasing them. Why do I keep doing this?

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The repetition itself is the clue. Something in you is drawn to the unavailable, that's not random, even if it feels stupid. What does the chase actually give you, even when it hurts?

You

I don't know. The thrill, maybe? The hope that this time I'll finally get the love I want?

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"Finally." That word is doing a lot of work, it implies a long history of trying to earn love that wasn't freely given. Picking unavailable partners can be a way of replaying that, hoping for a different ending. Who, originally, were you trying to win over?

Marcus treats the pattern as meaningful, not as evidence you're broken.

Example 3, Conflict at work

You

I lost it at my colleague today. She made a small comment about my report and I went off. I'm now mortified.

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A small comment, a big reaction. There's something underneath. When you replay the moment, what was the very first feeling, before the anger?

You

Shame. Like she'd caught me out being not good enough.

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So the anger was the second feeling, defensive armour for the shame underneath. That's important. It tells us where the work is. Anger we can manage; shame is what actually wants attention.

Marcus looks for the feeling under the feeling. The "presenting" emotion is rarely the one that needs care.

Tips for getting the most from Marcus

Bring a specific story, not a general complaint. "I melted down last night when…" gives Marcus more to work with than "I'm always anxious."
Stay open to the past being relevant. Not every issue has childhood roots, but many strong patterns do.
Don't expect a clean answer. Psychodynamic insight is slower than CBT-style reframes. The win is "oh, that's why," not "here's the fix."
Pair Marcus with Sarah or Leo. Use Marcus to spot the pattern, then Sarah for the inner-parts work or Leo for the present-day reframe.

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Important

Marcus is inspired by psychodynamic ideas but is not a therapist. Conversations about the past can stir up difficult material, please reach out to a qualified professional if you find yourself struggling.

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